Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Learning to love what they need

There are 5 love languages...

I'm convinced that TMac's love language is Physical Touch... despite what the book says;

(All the boys are "touchy" too, just like their daddy... which is really hard on mama since I'm NOT)

Anyway, here's the Mac family's love language:

Tony's is Acts of service and Giving (Reason 765,079,843 I finally agreed to marry him - Who wouldn't want to be served and spoiled?? )

Kyle's is Words of Affirmation

AJ's is Quality Time

Colton's is Gift Giving, with a touch of Word Affirmation

Caden's is Physical TTTTTTTTTouch

Me --I'm.... MOODY -- so Tony would say I'm a little of all 4. It depends on my mood... so yeah, I guess SS would be right about the high maintenance thing...whatever!

But I'd say I'm really all ABOUT GIFT GIVING !!! I love to get them and I love to give them.

I love, love, love to give them actually.

So when I saw this... http://www.sfrontato.blogspot.com/... it made my day!!!

(This is one of THE BEST blogs I've read... it will make you laugh and cry...)

And after I did this with my son who likes his QTime with mom... (and I love it too)

I got inspired again to work on these to give to Tony's all star team...
And I needed to be inspired to start up again, because after doing ELLA's cute PINK book... this just didn't seem quite so fun to me.
And then I worked... and I mean REALLY worked at giving some nice Words of Affirmations for my 2 little ones...

who BLESS their hearts... made their own lunch...



ummm... those RITZ crackers are smothered in peanut butter, American cheese, cream cheese and turkey...

ALL together...

But since I'm working on giving these boys words of AFFIRMATION...
I bit my tongue and didn't say YUCKKKKKK...

I said... YUMMY (and thanks for sharing 1 but I'm on a diet--lucky me, so you go ahead and eat the rest... but save 1 for daddy so he can enjoy one too. * I'm good like that.)

so...
If you haven't read the book on Love Languages... especially the one to discover what your kids' are... you should. It's helped me love my boys... all of them... like they need to be loved... rather than what comes easy to me. What a difference it makes.

ps.. Thanks for the inspiration today J!!!

14 comments:

Kristen said...

Think I just found my summer read.

Great post!

I love that you said it really did make a difference.

Kathryn said...

One of my girlfriends was telling me to read this book and I think you've just convinced me. :)
Thanks!

raising4boys said...

I love reading about the 5 love languages. I am still trying to figure out what my Kyle is.

I'm with you, not so good on giving the physical touch. Dad is better at the tickling and wrestling with the boys.

And can I just say you are SO CREATIVE with those books. I love the baby one AND the team. What a great mom you are!

Amanda said...

I will have to have a look out for that book.
You are so creative:)
l,
Amanda x

mamachristina said...

I love the five love languages book. I think if your male you're automatically physical touch(whether they admit it or not) I just got the one for kids and am looking forward to that. I'm envious of your nap

Nan said...

Thanks for commenting! I couldn't imagine homeschooling one and teaching 1st graders 3 days a week! You must be one tough cookie! I will check back in on you and hopefully we can encourage each other on the journey. I love the love languages book. Although, I am not all that good at speaking my husbands! I am praying to do that better!

3boys247 said...

We read the Love Languages book with our Sunday School class several years ago. Thanks for reminding me of it, I will find it, dust it off, and reread it.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the book you did for Ella! You are amazing!! You should scrapbook professionally, sell books for baby shower gifts, etc. You ROCK!!

Jenny said...

what a wonderful post! the pic of you and your son is something special.
I will have to check out this book.
the scrapbook page looks incredible!
Happy Wednesday!

Super B's Mom said...

Awww...I LOVE THIS!! Great pictures. You are so incredibly creative!

I've heard about this book - I definitely need to read it.

Rhonda said...

I know that each of my kids too have their own way of showing/expressing/needing love....

BUT, my boy is touchy feely too.... With all this hot humid weather, it has been hard to bite my tongue and not say... "MOVE IT! I'm sweating to death and you son are going to be the death of me."

Well, not so dramatic, but certainly he loves to touch and be touched. I'm still learning in my old age.

Marion said...

I think I might just read this book, sounds interesting! Are you still coming to the class this weekend? Hope to see ya there!

Runningamuck said...

My five year old son's love language is TOUCH!! It's so hard to remember sometimes when he's all over you and you just want a BREAK and have your safety bubble of space between you and the rest of the world. Hubby and I always joke that he's going to confuse a lot of girls when he's older. He's going to be holding hands and putting arms around shoulders or handing out hugs and they are all going to think they're going steady! lol. At least I HOPE that's all he's going to be doing!! Did I just date myself by using the word "steady"?

Lisa said...

That is one of my favorite books, mine is all highlighted, dog eared, and read over and over again. When you are as old as I am, it's easy to slip back into old habits and I have to get it out and remind myself how my hubby and two boys need to be loved.

B Boys Mom said...

Your team book looks awesome!! I'm going to go get this book 5 love languages it sounds very interesting.